I have the a long history of both.  I am not obese, fit, and young.  
My biggest fear is waking up paralyzed and {*filter*} - this has
happened three times in my life.  I have found nobody skilled in this
area, and I understand that psychiatry may be a possible area to
persue.  Most MDs are sympathetic, but unable or untrained in this
area. I would appreciate any response.

        Any sleep specialitsts in your area?  There are a number of non-
psych reasons for sleep apnea, many of which have nothing to do with obesity,
youth, etc.

Find a doctor who recognizes the abbreviation "CPAP".  Usually
pronounced "see-pap", it stands for Constant Positive Airway Pressure,
and it just means wearing something over your nose at night that blows
in air at just the right pressure to keep your airway open.  No
surgery, no psychotherapy, no {*filter*} involved.  I use it, and I can't
recommend it highly enough.  I'm not a health professional of any
sort, and your condition may not resemble mine, but it might be  worth
looking into.