>When I have sex, it hurts my lower abdomen when he goes all the way in
>and hits my cervix.  A lot.  Quite enough to keep me from getting
>"into it."  This has happened every time for years.  I've had 2 lovers
>and both were {*filter*}s, so maybe we just don't know what to do.

>Is that supposed to happen?  I think I read somewhere that the cervix
>isn't supposed to be in the way.

>>Yeah, I should ask my doctor about this.  And I will, but that'll take
>>a lot of money and effort.

>>When I have sex, it hurts my lower abdomen when he goes all the way in
>>and hits my cervix.  A lot.  Quite enough to keep me from getting
>>"into it."  This has happened every time for years.  I've had 2 lovers
>>and both were {*filter*}s, so maybe we just don't know what to do.

>>Is that supposed to happen?  I think I read somewhere that the cervix
>>isn't supposed to be in the way.

>Could it be that both your lovers were unusually well endowed?  I had a
>friend who was, and he considered it quite a curse because no woman he ever
>met could tolerate full penetration for exactly the reason you describe.

> >Could it be that both your lovers were unusually well endowed?  I had a
> >friend who was, and he considered it quite a curse because no woman he ever
> >met could tolerate full penetration for exactly the reason you describe.

> It doesn't even require that her lovers have been well-endowed; some
> women have a cervix that just isn't, well, "deep" inside, thus making
> it relatively vulnerable to getting bumped.

> A common cause of sex-related pelvic pain in women can be endometriosis.

> Do you also have painful periods?

> Do a web search on it (yahoo, google) and see if it sounds like you.

>> >Could it be that both your lovers were unusually well endowed?  I had a
>> >friend who was, and he considered it quite a curse because no woman he ever
>> >met could tolerate full penetration for exactly the reason you describe.

>> It doesn't even require that her lovers have been well-endowed; some
>> women have a cervix that just isn't, well, "deep" inside, thus making
>> it relatively vulnerable to getting bumped.

>Thank you for your thoughts.

>Well, if they were well-endowed, I can't say, because I haven't
>exactly seen a lot of other {*filter*}, erect men for comparison.

>>Well, if they were well-endowed, I can't say, because I haven't
>>exactly seen a lot of other {*filter*}, erect men for comparison.

>Okay, well, as long as we're being really frank here....

>Average:  If you wrap your hand around his erect {*filter*} at the base, only an
>inch or two would protrude above your hand.

>Well endowed:  A lot more than an inch or two.

>>Vulnerable to getting bumped?  Well, if I stick my finger in all the
>>way I hit it.  It just sorta hangs there like a curtain blocking the
>>tube.  And prodding it with my finger hurts my tummy a little too.

>I'm a male, so I'm certainly no expert, but having had some experience with
>this with more than one woman in my life it sounds like maybe David was
>right and you're simply built "shallow."  The solution might be as simple as
>a different position.  The woman on top allows her to control depth of
>penetration.  Perhaps you should try that.

> : > >
> : > >Could it be that both your lovers were unusually well endowed?  I had a
> : > >friend who was, and he considered it quite a curse because no woman he ever
> : > >met could tolerate full penetration for exactly the reason you describe.
> : >
> : > It doesn't even require that her lovers have been well-endowed; some
> : > women have a cervix that just isn't, well, "deep" inside, thus making
> : > it relatively vulnerable to getting bumped.

> : Thank you for your thoughts.

> : Well, if they were well-endowed, I can't say, because I haven't
> : exactly seen a lot of other {*filter*}, erect men for comparison.

> : Vulnerable to getting bumped?  Well, if I stick my finger in all the
> : way I hit it.  It just sorta hangs there like a curtain blocking the
> : tube.  And prodding it with my finger hurts my tummy a little too.

> Cervices are pretty insensitive. (Or else a Pap smear sample
> would hurt, wouldn't it. <G> It's the speculum against [unrelaxed]  
> muscles that can cause Pap discomfort. In childbirth, it's the effacement
> and dilation of the cervix that is painful.)

> >We have some great discussions here, do we not?  The trouble with
> >"woman on top" is that that position allows for about as deep a
> >penetration as the male is going to be able to manage.  Some other
> >position might be preferable under the circumstances.

> I would think her being able to control the depth would be more important
> than how deep the position allowed.

> But I dare say we need some women's opinions here.  Two men debating this
> one is about as futile as it gets.  ;-)

>>Could it be that both your lovers were unusually well endowed?  I had a
>>friend who was

>Why doesnt this comment suprise me